The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy.
– The Dalai Lama
If you would like to explore how to feel generally happier, sessions can
- Challenge your understanding of what happiness is
- Help you to feel happier naturally
- Teach you how to feel happy without reliance on outside circumstances
- Future progression can give you insight into what you ‘think’ you want in your future and show what is behind your emotional blueprint
- Help you find and pursue your passions
- find different ways to meet the present moment such as Flow, Ecstacy and Exuberence
- Be brave enough to challenge yourself to grow and take steps towards more of what you want.
- Teach you self hypnosis techniques to help you visualise positive outcomes.
This is the part of my job I love the most… helping people to find the happiness that lies within them. I cant promise to make you happy… but we can explore ideas that might change your thinking about what happiness is… and in doing so raise your general levels of day to day happiness. You may also believe you can’t be happy until you live in a certain set of circumstances. Future progression can take you into that desired future to discover whether you can find some of that happiness now.
Research shows that someone with difficult circumstances can have much higher levels of happiness than a person who seems to have all the outer trappings of a happy life. Most of us link happiness to something that ‘makes’ us happy – an occasion, a relationship, the ending of a bad time… but all of these are transient. We can spend our lives chasing outer circumstances and become addicted, manipulative, obsessive or engage in cycles of drama as a consequence.
The good news is… there is a different kind of happiness which is just an everyday kind of happiness that puts our lives on an upwards spiral. Finding a more intrinsic, everyday kind of happiness… means your outer circumstances are more likely to improve for these reasons…
- Just as negative emotions cause ill health, happiness leads to good physical health.
- People react more favourably to you as a happy, contented, positive person who is able to manage their own emotions. You’re more pleasant to be around!
- You are more likely to be resilient and emotionally stronger
- You’re more likely to rise to a challenge and therefore feel more fulfilled
- You have better friendships and relationships
- More likely to recover from set backs
- It will be easier to let go of unhealthy relationships when your happiness doesn’t depend on them
- You’re more likely to have hobbies and passions and the ability to lose yourself in the flow of the present moment
So can happiness be synthesised?
You may already know simple techniques for feeling happier such as eating healthily, getting exercise, keeping a gratitude journal, and learning to be in the present moment and live in the ‘Now’.
One of the Laws of the Mind states
“Every thought causes a physical reaction”.
Your thoughts affect all of the functions of your body. Worry thoughts trigger changes in the stomach that eventually lead to ulcers. Anger thoughts stimulate your adrenal glands and the increased adrenaline in the bloodstream causes many other physical changes. Anxiety and fearful thoughts change your pulse rate. Hunger and thirst thoughts affect your stomach and salivary glands. Our personal body chemistry is guided and triggered by our emotions. However, thought leads the emotions. You can make yourself sick, poor and unhappy by your habitual thinking.
Serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins are the happiness chemicals and they can be released with positive thoughts and imagination. Hypnotherapy can take you into a relaxed and imaginary world where you allow feel good chemicals to make you feel happy and relaxed for no outer reason at all.
How does Future Progression Hypnotherapy help with happiness?
You may believe a certain set of circumstances is necessary for you to be happy but the realising of certain dreams is not always what we expect. For example an athlete can feel empty after he wins the gold medal, because the striving and training wasnt just about winning the gold. He may have imagined he would win approval from an absent Father, or fill an emotional gap inside him that was about something totally different.
Future Progression into your imagined perfect or ideal future can allow you to explore what you perceive it will bring you. Once you know what that is, you may even change your mind about what you want, or you may be able to find some of that happiness in the present. You may notice feelings about that future that you weren’t expecting to feel.
We can take a look at your emotional blueprint and learn more about your perceived happiness needs are all about.
Use your imagination…
It may be that you discover that your imagined future feels right and really IS exactly what you want and that’s great. Hypnotherapy can help you, with the power of visualisation, to really get in touch with the feeling of living it.
As Albert Einstein said
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions”.
Hypnotherapists use the laws of the mind and these also agree that what is imagined is much more likely to be realised.
Mentally representing a positive future can help you connect deeply with that future self, and teach your subconscious where you want to go. You are less likely to dwell on the problems and get sidetracked down a wrong road if you keep the vision clear.
Find out more about visualisation
I can also teach you self hypnosis techniques to help you visualise positive outcomes.
More than mindfulness
Mindfulness is a great tool for becoming conscious and more in control of feelings. It can help you to be in control of your feelings rather than feelings being in control of you. Being present and grateful in the moment is a big part of emotional wellbeing. However there are more way to be in the moment than simply ‘being with’ whatever is coming up and noticing what is present.
I am not advocating that we abandon mindfulness, rather simply recognise that there are other ways of being in the now. I think the present moment has become too benign… and we are forgetting how dynamic it can be.
Roman Krznaric, an author and social philosopher says,
“It is interesting to explore other ways of being ‘in the now’. Instead, we should cultivate flow, exuberance and ecstasy as equally fulfilling ways of seizing the present moment”.
Once we feel an intrinsic sense of happiness, to make it really lasting we need to explore meaning.
Martin Seligman, Father of Positive Psychology, says there are no shortcuts to happiness. He says that positive emotion alienated from development of strengths and virtues can become the ‘gnawing realisation that we are fidgeting til we die’ .
He advocates flow, creativity, altruism and kindness and service to something greater than ourselves as providing the meaning that will provide lasting happiness.
THIS DOESN’T MEAN WE IGNORE NEGATIVE FEELINGS, RUN AWAY FROM THEM!
We can also work together to look deeply into and challenge emotions and attitudes that prevent you from feeling happy. Please see the section on ‘feelings’ to read more about this…